How to Declutter with a Sentimental Child

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Minimalism saved my motherhood. It gave me the gift of time and freed me from the stress that comes with clutter. I went from spending all my spare time cleaning up and organizing all the stuff to having time to do things like homeschooling and blogging.

But the real challenge has been learning how to declutter with a sentimental child.

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The Sentimental Child

My oldest child is super sentimental. She associates objects with memories or with the people who gave them to her. She also has the urge to save things that are special to her in order to share her love of them with those closest to her.

Just the other day, she walked into the kitchen and announced, “Mom, you know my Ramona books? We can keep them to hand down to my children and grandchildren and great grandchildren!” No joke – unprompted, and so NOT like me.

These days, I declutter things faster than you can say, “declutter.” If I suspect I am sentimentally attached to an object we don’t need or use, I ruthlessly dig to find the root of my attachment, say a quick prayer of thanks for how that object was useful to us in the past, and get rid of it. Done.

For my daughter, it’s not that easy. When my sentimental child found out we had to trash a special puzzle during our forced decluttering on the night of our long-distance move, she sobbed…for twenty minutes.  Bless her heart! I didn’t know what else to do except rub her back and sit with her in her sadness.

When she finished, her first words were, “Do you think we can find that same puzzle again, mom?” My jaw dropped, and I mumbled some kind of maybe before kissing her goodnight.

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While I do not relate to my daughter’s deep attachment to material things, I advocate for working with your child’s personality and trying to make decisions that work for the entire family.

I know that minimalism helps everyone in our family, even if my kids don’t always agree or understand. But I don’t want to steamroll my daughter, forcing minimalism on her with my parental authority. I want her to know that we value who God made her to be; that her feelings are heard, they matter, and we take them into account.

So how do you help your sentimental child to declutter and to embrace minimalism? I’ve learned a few things along the way that make it easier.

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5 Tips to Declutter with a Sentimental Child

1) Explain your “why”.

We try to share with our kids why we do what we do as much as possible. It’s not possible all the time, but we do it whenever we get the chance. If we explain our why, we meet less resistance. I often find that explanations also contribute to a “our family is a team” mindset.

Explain how minimalism benefits you and the whole family. When we have fewer things in our house, mommy has more time, is less stressed, and enjoys life more. Point out how much effort cleaning up and organizing so many things takes.  Share how clutter makes you feel (stressed and unhappy).

Some personality types are not as affected by clutter, but you likely have at least one other person in your family who is blatantly negatively affected by clutter as well. Your kids probably don’t fully appreciate the calm and joy an orderly, clutter-free house can bring, so it’s your job to verbalize those feelings and help them understand.

2) With older children, invite them into the process.

Even after getting rid of so much stuff, decluttering is never a finished job. I still seasonally declutter toys and the kids’ rooms.

I invite my daughter into that process, asking questions out loud like, “Do we use this anymore? What does it remind you of? How does keeping this help you? Why do you want to keep it?”

By saying out loud the exact thought process I use to declutter, I give her a life skill, and we get to have a good conversation about it. The conversation gives her the space to process her feelings. By the time she finishes, she is often ready to give up the item voluntarily.

Instead of being adversaries (me, the mean mommy getting rid of all of her stuff), she becomes an ally in the process.

3) Set boundaries for sentimental items.

Each of my kids has a special bin where they can keep sentimental items, things that are special to them. These items range from birthday cards to Happy Meal Toys to their leaf collection.

They get to choose what to keep. When the bin is full, they need to sort through it and decide what goes and what stays.

Stuffed animals can be another problem area for many parents. For my kids, as long as their stuffed animals stay on their beds, they can keep them. When I start finding stuffed animals all over the house, I remind them of the rule, and where those stuffed animals will end up if I keep finding them.

Usually one reminder is enough.

With crafts and art projects, I have a simple solution for dealing with kids’ artwork. On the whole, I decided that crafts generally drive me crazy, and I just don’t do them anymore, guilt-free. Instead, I encourage lots of drawing and artwork.

Any crafts that do happen to come into the house (usually via the sentimental child) can stay on top of her bookshelf or desk. Those I find outside of her room get put in the artwork bin to deal with later. “Out of sight, out of mind,” and the easier to get rid of later, when the memories fade.

4) Give her an incentive to declutter.

When the kids protest items going into the yard sale or donation box, I try to have an incentive in mind. For example, we still need to purchase bikes for our kids. I explained that the yard sale proceeds will go to new bikes. This usually helps get them on board with decluttering.

If you don’t really need more “things”, you can make a special experience your incentive (a very minimalist thing to do). Anything that you don’t ordinarily do will work: a special trip, a movie in the theatre or dinner out are just a few ideas.

5) See her sentimental attachment as a strength.

When we view the world through one lens, we tend to see differences as weaknesses. Some minimalists might see sentimentality as a weakness. I disagree.

My daughter has a big heart and loves people. She keeps things that remind her of the people she loves and the experiences she has had with them. Additionally, one of her love languages is likely gift-giving. This is a strength!

It’s my job as a parent to help her find alternative ways to use that strength. Perhaps we make time to write more cards to connect with the people she loves who lives far away. Maybe it’s planning an event for everyone she loves instead of giving them more stuff.

It’s also my job as the parent to explain to extended family and close friends that we are pursuing minimalism and simple living as a family. You can ask grandparents to give gifts like museum passes, special dates, and useful items for birthdays and Christmas gifts.  We use a public Amazon wishlist for Christmas especially to share the items we truly need.


The sentimental child and the minimalist parent doesn’t have to be a horrible mismatch, and it is possible to declutter with a sentimental child. With a little creativity and intentional parenting, minimalist parents can help their sentimental child embrace minimalism, too.

And you might be surprised. Your sentimental child just might become your biggest ally in your family’s pursuit of minimalism.

Do you have a sentimental child? Have advice I didn’t mention that’s worked for you? Share in the comments!

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