Inside: Is relaxed homeschooling your homeschool style? Read these signs to find out – you might be surprised! 

Relaxed homeschooling is a homeschool style that gets lost in the shuffle. It’s often used interchangeably with unschooling and eclectic homeschooling and minimalist homeschooling, partly because everyone’s definition of relaxed homeschooling is a little bit different.

While I am a minimalist, and minimalism does influence my homeschooling, I’ve never felt comfortable adopting the label “minimalist homeschooler”. I always identified much more strongly as a “relaxed homeschooler”.

And all of these signs that you’re a relaxed homeschooler? I nod along in agreement with 
relaxed homeschooling signs


I wrote an entire post explaining why unschooling and relaxed homeschooling are not the same thing. In that post, I define relaxed homeschooling as:

Relaxed homeschooling uses a variety of educational methods, from the traditional to the creative, to transfer essential knowledge and skills to children, without concern for arbitrary benchmarks, timetables, or definitions.

Relaxed homeschooling uses anything and everything – yes, even doing ‘nothing’ at times – to preserve children’s natural desire to learn because being a life-long learner is a child’s greatest strength.


Finally, relaxed homeschooling gives children the tools they need to succeed in life – not just the academic world, the self-awareness to know what they can and want to achieve, and the passion they need to accomplish it.


-June Doran (source)

Because relaxed homeschooling isn’t talked about as much in the homeschool community, you might have a difficult time identifying whether or not you are a relaxed homeschooler. Some homeschoolers argue that defining your homeschool style isn’t really important.

I disagree.

When you can clearly identify your homeschool style (or styles), you know where to start looking for resources that will work for your family.

You can put your finger on why a certain voice in the homeschool world just doesn’t jibe with you, even if everyone else loves that person to death.

You can also save yourself a lot of trouble (and money) by skipping the local homeschool groups that probably won’t work for you.

There’s nothing wrong with trying something that’s not your style: you might love it! After all, one homeschool mom I know blended two seeming opposites – unschooling and classical education – to arrive at her homeschool style, and it works for her.

But knowing your homeschool style gives you a place to start, a foundation to build on. 

So in the spirit of helping you figure out whether or not relaxed homeschooling is your homeschool style, and to clarify what it means to be a relaxed homeschooler exactly, I asked several homeschool bloggers to share ten signs that relaxed homeschooling might be your style.

I’m so thankful for other homeschool moms who can put into words all the nuances of relaxed homeschooling! If you identify with the majority of these, relaxed homeschooling is probably your style.


You know you’re a relaxed homeschooler when…

10 Signs Relaxed Homeschooling is Your Homeschool Style

Submitted by: Heather of Wonder Schooling

We spend very little of our school day on traditional schoolwork, and my response sounds just like this one!

Relaxed Homeschooling: Is it your homeschool style? 10 Signs it just might be.

I absolutely add -ish to all my kids grade levels.

Submitted by: Ashley of The Homeschool Resource Room

Relaxed homeschooling might be your style if...

Submitted by: Sara @ Heart and Soul Homeschooling

I always reverse plan! I have a general idea in my head of what I want to do each week, but sometimes life learning comes up and we don’t get to it. The beauty of reverse planning is that you can document ALL learning, not just the formal stuff.

What does it mean to be a relaxed homeschooler?

Submitted by Amy @ Rock Your Homeschool

Anyone else get that question, “What do you do all day?” It’s definitely a win when the kids answer enthusiastically instead of just give blank stares, am I right?

Relaxed homeschooling: signs it might be your homeschool style

Submitted by: Katrina @ Rule This Roost

We absolutely put more emphasis on real-world and outdoor learning than finishing curriculum.

You know you're a relaxed homeschooler when...

Submitted by: Kay @ Heart-to-Heart Homeschooling

Writing isn’t about the number of pages or the number of papers, but about having something you are so excited to write about (one reason why we love Brave Writer for writing instruction).

Relaxed Homeschooling: Is it your homeschool style?

Submitted by: Ginny @ Not So Formulaic

Yes! Give me museums, nature centers, and parks over workbooks any day.

Is relaxed homeschooling your homeschool style? Click through to find out.

Submitted by: Meghann @ Practically Hippie

How much about life do kids learn in school? Well, they learn a lot about how to live life in a school (Clark Aldrich, Unschooling Rules). Why not actually live life instead?

Relaxed Homeschooling: 10 Signs It's Your Homeschool Style

Submitted by:  Emily @ Table Life Blog

I so agree! If you only had access to the library, you could still receive a fantastic education. There’s no teacher like a good book.

10 Signs Relaxed Homeschooling is Your Style

Submitted by: June @ This Simple Balance

Perhaps it’s because we homeschool year-round (we really have no clear start and end date from school year to school year), but I never worry about gaps or forgetfulness.  I know they will pick up right where they left off when a subject comes up again because the majority of our learning happens in the context of real life: reading, questions, and discussion.

Is relaxed homeschooling your style? Let me know in the comments!

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  1. This is totally us. Our kids are 7, 5, and 2

  2. This is us all over! Our primary goal for homeschooling is to be a close and connected family – an answer that surprises some people when they ask the “why homeschool?” question. So, this way of approaching home education works for us. It allows real life to be the focus with no beginning or ending to learning. Thanks for all the wonderful posts. You often put into words what I think and that is most helpful. Peace and Blessings (especially with the new little one on the way!)

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